Tuesday, January 19, 2016
I was considering the visual world that we live in. How everyone at a glance makes snap judgements about people based only on one piece of information, their appearance. Having a son with a disability and being a person who dresses authentically I see the judgements cast our way rather frequently. I also make judgments of my own, we all do.
We have all done it and at the end of the day it is a waste of time and serves no purpose but to lower our energy especially if the judgement is negative. I read this quote once that said something like, "You don't see me as I am you see me as you are". An interesting thought and inspires me to take pause and reflect.
Thinking about this topic I was reminded of the concept and social experiment of "Bagism". On March 31st 1969, John Lennon and Yoko Ono gave a press conference at the Sacher Hotel in Vienna, Austria. This was the first announcement of 'Bagism,' which they describe as "total communication." John clarified by saying; "Because when we were in Amsterdam doing Bed Peace, halfway through the week we sort of realized a tag to put on what we're doing which makes it easier for us and you to recognize what we're doing, by calling it Bagism. That means, if we have something to say or anybody has something to say, they can communicate from one room to another, and not confuse you with what color your skin is, or how long your hair’s grown, or how many pimples you’ve got."
John Lennon and Yoko Ono exhibit one of Yoko's art forms, called Bagism, at their Bank St. home in the West Village.
According to Wiki, Yoko said that bagism was inspired by the theme of Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's The Little Prince, which was "One sees rightly only with the heart, the essential is invisible to the eyes." She hoped that the bag, by hiding her and John's physical appearance, would make their essence or the essence of their message visible.
I am in an industry that is based entirely on the exterior, the fashion industry. For me, I personally look at fashion as an outer expression of who you are inside, a second language. But of course I can only guess or assume what one is trying to convey by the way they choose to adorn themselves, merely one part of the human puzzle. If you dress authentically the world can see who you are without having to speak on one level or make a false judgement based only on your appearance. Total communication concept turns this all brilliantly upside down. Imagine if you were left only to judge based on words alone? no preconceived notions about who you are and what you are thinking in that moment, not based on your clothing, color of your skin, weight, gender or other physical features? I think this was a very important social experiment and social message that still a powerful concept today. It serves as a reminder of how we let our physical world impact us and how much we rely on the appearance of others to formulate opinions about that person. It forces us to take a look at the human social illness of judgement and why we continue to participate.
In my almost 37th year of life I try to look past appearance and even language now and 'judge' someone on what they DO, their actions as opposed to sometimes empty words.
I do 'Imagine' a day though where as humans we can have what John and Yoko refer to; total communication. A dialogue that is genuine and free from judgements and preconceived notions. Conversations where we choose to listen before we look and truly hear before we hurt the other person. Can preconceived notions ever be set aside in honor of "total communication"? or should we just get back in the bag?
Thursday, January 14, 2016
Harpers Bazaar - Alexi Lubomirski
Dolce and Gabbana dress, $7,995, and scarf, $495, 877-DGUSA. Tiffany & Co. earrings, $16,000 and ring, $40,000
There is nothing more chic to me than floral prints in the winter. There is also nothing more unaffordable than the Dolce and Gabbana dress pictured above. Fear not dear readers as I have found a few fabulous alternatives, both contemporary and vintage. Reese Witherspoon in the new issue of Harpers Bazaar is a real vision in this floral frock and I truly love the image. Which winter garden print is your favorite?
Shabby Apple: $129 *Pre-Order: Available Feb 26*
Vintage 1970's via Evolution Vintage
Vintage Poppy Print Dress - Evolution Vintage
Thursday, December 17, 2015
That's it folks, December is half way over and there is no turning back. We are just weeks away from exchanging gifts with our loved ones. Regardless of your traditions or chosen faith chances are there is someone that you are buying for. this is also a great gift guide well beyond the holiday season. some of us receive money for Christmas, have birthdays, baby showers and more/
I want to share my favorite places/people to shop from in hopes of introducing you to your new favourite place or inspiring you.
1) SJP Collection
image from Zappos Couture
It is no secret how I feel about this brand. Collection after collection Sarah Jessica Parker and her team deliver the most amazing shoes that I've seen yet, and believe me I've done the leg work over my adult life. The reason I love it so much is I see the past and present references presented in such striking combinations. In my business, Evolution Vintage I'm making fashions past present. The SJP Collection has a strong foothold in the present with an equally string past influence. These shoes are made in Italy and will be a timeless edition to your or your special someones closet. I may or may not have played shoe fairy this year for a friend or two. Some of you may be thinking, "I love them but I can't afford them". First they are an investment AND several of the retailers have sales (Nordstrom, Neiman Marcus and Bloomingdales). (TIP: Take a peek at Nordstrom Rack)
3) Good Girl Studio
6) CJ Blue Creates
Thursday, December 3, 2015
Sydney and I Day 2
I have been largely occupied the past month preparing for the holidays, dealing with Thanksgiving, Christmas Card Photo shoot, Style Santa Event, Kids and more. I did however make it a priority to follow through with the previously blogged about Style Challenge, 30 days - 30 dresses. The month of November was filled with fabulous frocks for my friend Sydney and I (and a few other Insta Ladies who chose to join the challenge for some days of the month).
Sydney and I on Day 1
Each day for the month of November Sydney and I were dedicated to posting our looks. Even when there was no photographer present we snapped a pic of our mini, midi or maxi hemline as we went about our day. Sometimes we even had the pleasure of bumping into each other shopping, or pent the morning chatting over breakfast.
We Grocery Shop Like This Bitch.
The results are in.
I completed the task wearing 30 different dresses. Our theory was correct that it is indeed easier to grab a dress and wear than it is to style a head to toe look with pants. We didn't say it was better but it is much more effortless. Some days, if I went out in the evening I actually wore two dresses on that day. I have learned that I could have done this challenge for 2-3 months without having to repeat dresses (time for a closet cleanse). I also learned that I have a severe shortage of tights and suitable hosiery to wear with my plethora of dresses.We did this challenge in the "winter" season in California intentionally where the temperatures are on the chilly side accompanied by the windy days of our sea side towns. The challenge renewed my interest in socks and heels though which I also see as a plus! I pushed my style boundaries as well by trying a dress with sneakers, boots with light chiffon fabrics and different layering combinations, thus the challenge inspired me.
"I happily accepted Lisa's 30 days30 dresses challenge for the month of November. I'm a frequent dress wearer as it is, because I find dresses to be the easiest way to look put together in a hurry, and most importantly, I find it the most comfortable way to dress. While I know not everyone owns 30 dresses like I do, it's still very doable by changing up your look with sweaters,shoes, and accessories. I repeated my go to denim dress on purpose to illustrate this. The thing I found interesting is that people so often ask you where you're going when you're in a dress. Most often my answer was "grocery shopping" or "to get my oil changed!" Throughout the month I received a great number of compliments on my outfit-but to be clear, I dress for myself, In what makes me feel good. Many women would compliment me, and then say "oh I couldn't wear that! I'd look too dressed up!" My response is always "yes you can!", and "what's wrong with looking dressed up?" In fact, I had some really pleasant conversations with strangers, encouraging them to be themselves, wear what brings them joy, and step out of their comfort zone just a tad. I stepped out of my comfort zone a few times as well- layering pieces I wouldn't normally, because the weather was cold etc... All in all, it was a really fun project to be a part of! And although November is over, guess what? I'm wearing a dress"
Could you or would you take a challenge like this? You don't need 30 dresses to take part in a DRESScapade. Use your imagination and re-style the pieces you have. Mix seasons and textures and inspire yourself.
Cheers to DRESSing from an authentic place and representing who you are through your personal style.